This is a burn book to my attempts in the dating world. I am a single female who hasn’t been in a relationship for three years.

   I’m going to tell you what not to do when talking to someone you like.

   Basically, this is an advice column to highlight my failures in the dating world.

    I am not a bitter female, so this won’t be a tirade of the plethora of friend zones I have experienced and the incurable disease I constantly have called “the crush.”

   I am here to teach you how to keep your pride, something I lost a long time ago.

  Mistake number one: don’t try to overdress for them. Ladies this means experimenting with makeup that you don’t usually do.

   For example: trying out a new eyeshadow color without finding the proper blending tones. Don’t be like me and wear bright blue eyeshadow and red lipstick, ultimately ending up like a clown.

   Guys don’t overdose on Axe when you usually stick to deodorant. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should.

   I hope you’re taking notes by now because right here is when it gets really imperative that you are paying attention; this can save your life.

   Mistake number two is not asking your friend for help on flirting.

   Despite what you think, there will always be someone who is willing to help you on your flirting.

   If you don’t ask, then you’ll end up saying stupid things like, “Your hair smells differently,” and end up being the weird girl who smells hair.

Ask them for help on your pickup lines, you don’t want to sound pathetic.

  Mistake number four is underestimating the power of social media. I cannot stress this enough. Everyone uses social media.

  You won’t seem like a stalker if you follow them, but don’t dramatize the fact that they followed you back because you’ll get your hopes up about their feelings towards you; ultimately leaving you disappointed.

   Don’t do heavy research before the first date. Know enough about them to continue a conversation, but don’t go Instagram stalking.

   You don’t want to find out too many things before the first date because you’ll judge them and it will make you feel more uncomfortable. When you’re talking to someone, you want to be your best self.

   For the guys, this is something for you. Never say anything you wouldn’t say in front of your parents, such as, commenting on his or her body.

   Although you are visual, meaning you only pay attention to the physical attributes of someone before you begin to search for the things that really matter, you don’t want her to feel like her body is the only thing that makes her significant.

    There’s so much more to people than a pretty face, and if you don’t try to take the time to see who she truly is, then she will think you’re just another guy.

     It’s important to remember that being yourself is the most important thing out of anything.

  Yes, I am single, but  I am happy with my life because I am being myself while failing in the dating world.