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Go easy on the people you curve

Morgan Myles

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Rejecting a guy or girl can turn into a really awkward situation if you don’t know what to say.

Follow some simple rules so you don’t come off as rude but also get your point across.

First, don’t lie about anything that can make the person feel they still have a chance, such as “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m just not ready to date right now.”

Giving the person even the slightest of hope might mean they’ll reapproach you when the chance is re-opened.

It’s important not to be rude. Try to remember how much it takes for a person to actually approach you, the pressures of finding what to say and how to say it.

That being said don’t make it about them for the reason you’re turning them down. They are probably nervous already and you dogging them out on approaching you can just make it worse.

Next, actually listen to what the person is telling you. You may already have your mind made up that you’re going to turn them down, but just hear them out.

They built up the courage to talk to you, so the least you can do is listen before you make the decision to break their heart.

If you actually know this person and worry you will have a problem seeing them in the future, don’t make it awkward.

Just give them a simple wave or say “hi” or “bye” if necessary.

Other than that, you don’t have to go out of your way to speak to them. Again, you don’t want to send mixed signals.

The same thing goes for a friend. If you think the friendship is worth salvaging then try to put the situation to the side and make sure the way you curve them comes off as nice as possible.

But if this person is just not taking the turn down, it’s time to try different tactics, such as ignoring them or being more direct.